A Day in the Life of a Mom with ADHD

a day in the life of a mom with adhd

A day in the life of a mom with ADHD is a rollercoaster of challenges and triumphs. I have my fair share of struggles keeping up with the constant demands of parenting. ADHD makes it uniquely challenging for me to manage time, stay organized, and accomplish all that needs to be done in a day. Even something as routine as the morning rush getting the kids ready for school can feel utterly overwhelming.

In this blog post, I’ll give you an inside look at a day in the life of a mom with ADHD. I’ll discuss the obstacles I face on a daily basis and the coping strategies I employ to help me be the best mom I can be. My goal is to spread awareness and understanding about the experience of motherhood with ADHD.

Understanding ADHD in Mothers

Before delving into my daily life, it’s important to understand what ADHD actually is and how many mothers cope with it.

What is ADHD?

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by pervasive inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. The hallmark symptoms include difficulty focusing, easy distractibility, disorganization, restlessness, emotional dysregulation, and problems completing tasks.

While the disorder often manifests in childhood, at least 30-40% of individuals continue experiencing disabling symptoms in adulthood. ADHD frequently co-occurs with other conditions like anxiety, depression, and learning disabilities.

Prevalence of ADHD in Mothers

An estimated 4.4% of U.S. adults have ADHD. Among mothers specifically, the rates may be even higher. Some research indicates that 5-8% of moms struggle with ADHD symptoms.

That’s approximately 1 in 20 mothers dealing with the profound impacts of ADHD while trying to raise children and manage busy households. g the profound impacts of ADHD while trying to raise children and manage busy households.

Key Takeaways

ADHD is characterized by difficulty focusing, hyperactivity, and impulsivity

  • 30-40% of people continue having ADHD symptoms as adults.
  • 5-8% of mothers are estimated to have ADHD.
  • ADHD makes parenting uniquely challenging.

Now that I’ve provided some ADHD background let me walk you through a day in my life as a mom with ADHD.

Morning Routine

Mornings tend to be chaotic as I try rallying the kids to get ready for school. My ADHD symptoms really start flaring up first thing.

Waking Up and Getting Out of Bed

Actually, waking up is perhaps my biggest obstacle. I frequently oversleep since ADHD can disrupt normal sleep cycles. Once awake, just crawling out from the warm covers seems to require Herculean effort some days. I often scroll through my phone before finding the motivation I need.

Preparing Breakfast and Lunch

On most frantic weekday mornings, my best intentions of preparing wholesome breakfasts and lunches vaporize despite my desire to follow ADHD-friendly meal-planning strategies. We end up with frozen waffles, instant oatmeal packets, string cheese sticks, and other grab-and-go convenience foods. It’s not ideal, but it gets food on the table amidst the angst rush.

Getting the Kids Ready for School

Trying to rally the kids to brush their teeth, get dressed, pack backpacks, and load into the car tests my patience like nothing else. My ADHD-related emotional reactivity kicks and I sometimes overreact with frustration that I later feel guilty about. By the time we finally do pull out of the garage just minutes before the bell rings, I’m wiped out.

Managing Household Tasks

Between working remotely, driving the kids to various activities, assisting with homework, and striving to keep some semblance of household order, many balls get dropped or forgotten. I face continual challenges trying to check off all the to-dos a smooth-running home requires.

Cleaning and Organizing

A messy environment aggravates my ADHD-fueled distractibility. And because of my poor time perception and task initiation abilities with ADHD (source 8), hours or even days will stretch by before I finally tackle the chaos. I regularly get overwhelmed by just how much needs decluttering and scrubbing down. My saving grace is having my kids pitch in with age-appropriate chores.

Meal Planning and Grocery Shopping

As mentioned earlier, actually planning nutritious meals far enough ahead rarely happens in my house. My ADHD symptoms of procrastination and difficulty prioritizing key tasks sabotage those efforts. Grocery expeditions tend to happen only when we’re down to leftover condiments because I put it off for so long. Thank goodness many stores near me stay open 24 hours!

Managing Finances and Paying Bills

Of, talk about an Achilles’ heel. My disorganization means I lose bills or have no recollection of paying them. I’ve missed more statement due dates and even had services turned off when I dropped the ball. Handling finances requires mental clarity and persistence that my ADHD-wired brain typically struggles to muster. I often long for an accountant to materialize and make sure it all gets properly managed.

Balancing Work and Family Life

Like most modern moms, I aim for that ever-elusive work-life balance. My ADHD symptoms definitely tip the scales on some days.

Juggling Work Tasks and Deadlines

Thanks to my ADHD difficulties with time blindness and distraction, I don’t always know how long tasks require, leading me to miss project deadlines. If only hours came with little alarm clocks! I also grapple with bouncing back and forth between mom duties and paid work demands. My attempts at multi-tasking by responding to work emails during school pick-up lines often backfire.

Helping Kids with Homework

I do try to assist my kids when they need help completing assignments correctly. But doubts about whether their work seems “good enough” trigger my ADHD-fueled perfectionism and make me redo their work. My tendency to hyperfocus on tasks can lead me down accidental Wikipedia rabbit holes or attempts at creating elaborately decorated posters instead of quickly answering homework questions. Whoops.

Attending Extracurricular Events and School Functions

I cherish participating in my kids’ lives, but ADHD sensory sensitivities can make loud, crowded venues painfully overwhelming. The emotional chaos of drop-off parties or chorus concerts stretches my distractibility and patience thin. My pooped mental state means I often hit an afternoon slump and may act snippy with my family. Recharging my batteries in quiet solitude helps me recalibrate.

Self-Care and Coping Strategies

A day in the life of a mom with ADHD is a delicate balance. Amid parenting and daily tasks, I prioritize self-care and coping strategies to manage my ADHD symptoms. It’s a journey filled with challenges, but also moments of triumph and self-discovery, as I nurture my well-being.

Prioritising Self-Care

Whether it’s indulging in alone time with music and reading, taking luxurious baths, exercising to soothe my stimmy body, or purchasing services to outsource overly taxing tasks, I make sure to schedule enjoyable self-care activities. The phrase “put your own oxygen mask first” rings very true. I protect my health so I can be fully available for my cherished role as a mom.

Implementing Time Management Techniques

I may not ever fully defeat time blindness or chronic tardiness, but using productivity tools like calendars, alarms, timers, and planners helps minimize how often I drag myself behind schedule. I set notifications to remind me about everything – work meetings, kids’ dental cleanings, even weekday morning routines. Managing an ADHD brain requires prompt interventions. With so much on my plate, the structure helps me remember and accomplish what needs doing.

Seeking Support From Family and Friends

Knowing to my wiring, I recognize when my workflow goes awry, or emotions surge out of proportion, and I need support to regain equilibrium. Having my spouse, parents, and a few trusted friends on speed dial, and even professional ADHD coaching, ensures I have sounding boards for venting and objective guidance about skillful responses. I’m grateful for their listening ears and validation that cuts through distorted perceptions ADHD might otherwise convince me of.

Frequently Asked Questions

How to be a mom with ADHD?

The best way to be a mom with ADHD is to identify areas of struggle and put systems in place to minimize those difficulties through scheduling aids, childcare support, cleaning services, etc. Also, prioritize self-care to manage stress.

What is life like for a child with ADHD?

Life with ADHD as a child often involves symptoms like trouble focusing in school, forgetting homework, acting impulsively, and struggling with emotions. Creating structure through consistent schedules and routines is essential for an ADHD child to learn coping strategies.

Does my mom have ADHD?

If your mom exhibits ongoing struggles with distraction, disorganization, hyperactivity, forgetfulness, or task management, she may have undiagnosed ADHD. Recommend she talk with her doctor about screening scales that can indicate if ADHD factors into her issues.

Conclusion

In shining a spotlight on a day in the life of a mom with ADHD, my goal was to offer an insider’s glimpse into what parenting with this disorder entails. The lessons I continue learning center around embracing my brain wiring, releasing guilt over perceived failures, prioritizing self-care, and determining what truly matters most to me. My days may seem a chaotic mess at times, but with the right tools, I can show up fully present for my kids. And that makes even the most frenzied of mornings incredibly worthwhile.

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